It's Not About Being Perfect, It's About Not Being Perfect
As I prepare to launch From The Heart I am witnessing feelings of doubt, insecurity, not-enoughness and worry arising. There are what if's coming up that want to keep me held back from putting my vulnerable self out into the world. My "loyal soldier* (sub personality)" as Bill Plotkin calls it is trying to keep me safe so I don't traumatize my vulnerable, most authentic self in ways I did when I was an innocent, and extremely sensitive child. The more I tap into these feelings the more I realize that I MUST move forward, I must breakthrough, that these feelings no longer are going to have me by the ball and chain.
The time is now for us to put our gifts out into the world. The time is now for us to listen to our hearts, to slow down enough and let go of who we think we should be in order to BE who we are. It is time to realize that there is no such thing as perfection, and the idea of perfection is only another mechanism of our Loyal Soldier* to keep us hidden, and never feeling enough. It's time to take action now in the direction of our dreams, and the life we envision ourselves living. After being in China I said enough is enough. No more hiding. No more dimming my light. We are living in a new paradigm now. We are living in world that is aching for my medicine, and yours too.
I feel that it's time to take charge. To let the old ingrained stories go. It's time for our medicine to shine. And no, it won't be perfect. And yes, you will make mistakes. But we are all here for each other. We are a community. When we let our own ideas of perfectionism go, we can see others as the HUMANS they are too. We expect less perfection from others when we release perfectionism within ourselves. How FREEing does that sound like? Imagine a world where we can just show up as we are, and be enough. No hiding, no trying prove anything, just our authentic, raw, real, sacred selves. And you are sacred no matter what, let me assure you that!
It's scary that's for sure, but listen to Georgia O'keefe:
"I've been absolutely terrified every moment of my life - and I've never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do."
and to Anais Nin:
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
and to Nelson Mandela:
"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."
You see what I mean. Fear will always be present. But when will stop letting us control us? When will the courage be bigger, our message stronger than the fear?
Join me in my upcoming online Workshop From The Heart to dive deeper into yourself, into your fears, and your gifts. I say join me because I will be doing the exact same digging. Registration opens March 1st.
* "The Loyal Soldier — a courageous, wise, and stubborn sub-personality that formed during our childhood and created a variety of strategies to help us survive the realities (often dysfunctional) of our families and culture. It keeps us “safe” by making us small or limited, or by further traumatizing us. It is the intrapsychic element that shovels chunks of our wholeness into our Shadow so that we will appear acceptable or invisible to the powers that be.
Anytime you hear an inner voice judging you as too uppity, too this, too that, not enough this, not enough that, it is the LS speaking! To work with this dynamic in ourselves, we need to recognize that the LS literally saved our lives when we were growing up. The people capable of nurturing us or abandoning us had all the power over us and our LS was our ally in the war of infant, childhood, and adolescent survival.
The problem is – we grow up – and the LS remains a part of our psyche – keeping us safe and small and doing his best to keep us from being hurt – but often this just hampers our efforts at individuation and shoves more of our radiant selves into the shadow!" - Read More