Stop, Reflect, Own, See

 Collage: Mary Herrera 

Collage: Mary Herrera 

"In black, there are all colors.

Where darkness, always the light,

Iridescent the raven's wing in sunlight."

Brooke Medicine Eagle        


As we enter the darkest time of the year we are being asked to go inwards, to stop what we are doing, and melt into being. This time of year is the perfect for deep reflection, especially as we are coming closer to the end of 2017. It's a chance for us to take inventory to see how far we've come compared to last year, and to take note on what we've accomplished, internally and externally. The darkness is a time to be in the presence of our own darkness, our own unknown, and learn how to navigate.  It's a chance to practice all that we've been practicing, and an opportunity to put our tools to the test. To surrender, to let go of expectations, to own who we are, and take responsibility, and notice what arises. 

I am realizing the past few days how important it is to stop and just be with how far we've come. To honour and give ourselves a pat on the back for the work we've put in. We are always always always going to have shit to work through, and if we know that, then we can just relax and embrace where we are. When we can fully own where we are, and love it than that is fulfillment. I've noticed in my journey that sometimes I push on in healing this, and that and I don't take enough moments of gratitude for my younger selves, and how strong they are, and for me now, and how strong I am. I am learning that this needs to be APART of the journey, and by truly seeing, and owning the work we've done in the past, it gives us the confidence, humility and compassion to move forward, but also to know our worth.

So as we move into the darkness, I ask you to join me in stopping for a minute, and dive into a time of reflection, to take a moment to see how much you really have grown, to remember how great you are, and that just because you have shit (you always will) that it doesn't mean you can't celebrate all that you are. I ask you to own your superpowers, to embrace your gifts, to trust in your journey, and love exactly where you are. It's enough.

Here is a beautiful poem by one of my favourite poets David Whyte, as a truthful reminder of darkness and greatness:


When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.

When your vision has gone
no part of the world can find you.

Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.

There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.

The dark will be your womb

The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.

You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in

Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.

Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn

anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive

is too small for you.

– “Sweet Darkness” by David Whyte